Don't DO IT...

Ladies,

Bustin out the windows of someone's car......ILLEGAL! If he really wanted it then he would have put a ring on it.....no need to remind him! Please do not let Beyonce' and Jazmine Sullivan have you fooled! You can not do the same irresponsible shit that they sing about. Beyonce' has a ring on her shit, bitch SHUT UP. And if Jazmine busted out somebody's window her PR people would have a fucking fit. Don't get it twisted Single Ladies is my jam but by no means is it my anthem! Therefore I'm not about to hit up some old boo's talkin' bout "if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it!" You're just setting yourself up to get either played or cussed out, you're gonna look silly as shit regardless! And no nigga is about to make me upset to the point where if I act out my rage I end up in handcuffs.....some HOW! They say things like what's in their songs because it's entertaining so please whenever you feel like acting out one of these songs remember....Don't DO IT! If you weren't on TV before then lets not have COPS be your only avenue for getting on their NOW. PREEEEEAAAAAACH!

What the hell is inside of me?! Pt.1

I have decided to do a series on a specific topic b/c I feel there are many different points that could fall under this category. If you are a female have you ever wondered what the hell was inside of you that makes you sooooooo different from a man? Clearly I'm not talking about the physical aspects but the shit on the inside, the emotional stuff! What is it......DNA....sweet baby Jesus? Who knows! But I'm going to point out some of the things that we do or handle differently.

Why is it that when a female starts talking to a new guy (friend or more) she shows her girls pictures of him? Its like a given, like she has to and trust we have all done it at least ONCE! Whether its through your phone, through facebook, through an email....HELL....I don't know if you send a Sketch by carrier pigeon, but your girls will see what this *New NEW* nigga looks like. Do you do it b/c you want to hear what the other girls think? Like if they say "Oooh girl...he is fine!" then you are immediately satisfied b/c you're like "haha BITCH...he is fine and I GOT HIM!" Or is it like when you get a new outfit, you just want people to see you with it b/c it looks good on you? Or is it like a new toy....you just wanna show people so you can be like "Just cause ya'll nigga's ain't gettin new shit, doesn't mean I'M NOT!" Who KNOWS why we do it....but we do! But please remember you can't show everybody because some of your friends want a *New New* nigga too and they will take him anyway they can....even if that means snatching him right from under you....TRIFE LIFE! Back to my point....I wonder if guys do this too? I doubt they do.....I highly doubt it actually. I don't believe that when I guy meets a new chick he shows photos of her, maybe he talks about her....but providing actual documentation of her existence....naaaah I doubt it. I have more guy friends than a little bit and none of my nigga's have ever showed me pictures of some chick they were talking to, they might have talked about her but never has a photo been shown. I guess we'll never know what the hell is inside of us that's NOT inside of them! And this is only the tip of the iceberg my friends.....there are soooooo many more differences to come!

Mr.Not Quite

Have you ever met a guy who almost has it all but he's NOT QUITE all the way there?! I met one and he kind of turns my smile upside down! LOL....when I first met him he asked me for my number and I gave it to him b/c that's just what I do....if I can't find a good reason not to give it or take a number down then I'll give it, sad...I KNOW! But he also talked to a friend of mine at the party and not only got her number but he hit her up the next day as well....I mean we came to the party together, you couldn't have picked a strangers number to get? So that immediately told me that he was just racking up numbers that night for Gawwd knows what reason and that I needed not to take him seriously. So he would hit me up and ask when we were gonna hang out and I would be like you know whenever is cool, you seem like you'll be a great new friend....note I specifically said FRIEND!!!!! So whenever I saw him it was always in like a group setting and what not so that no one gets any ideas, but the sad part about it all is that he is actually a really great guy. He's very intelligent, good sense of style, very honest, and nice when he wants to be.....but this goes to show that sometimes how you start the race will determine how you end it. I mean I could be the only one missing out in this situation but that's a chance I'm willing to take because I don't have time for the games. He was sooooooooo close....but Not Quite!

Mister Solo Dolo

Let say Hip-Hop was rushed to the ER and hooked up to a Heart Rate monitor....if Soujah Boy is the flat line going across the monitors screen, then Kid Cudi is that last minute Peak that makes you say "Wheewwww, that was CLOSE!" If you don't know who KiD CuDi is, then I'm glad that I can be the one to introduce him to you. He was born Scott Mescudi in Cleveland Ohio and is quite the cutie pie, if I don't say so myself....and if you read my earlier post you know I feel that the game has been lacking cuteness LATELY! He has a mixtape out with Plain Pat and the 10Deep clothing label. The title of the mixtape is A Kid Named Cudi and it is pure HOT fire, and FREE! I have listened to the mixtape almost everyday since I first downloaded it, sometimes multiple times a day because I just can't get enough of it. I felt like I liked it too much too soon so I had my friend listen to it just to make sure it really was that good and I wasn't just into because I felt like I was supposed to be (I mean the nigga has gotten big ups from Kanye and Q-tip....that's saying something) But nope....it really was that good. He rhymes (well!), sings(brotha can carry a tune...he ain't Phonte'....but he's acceptable) and he has something to actually SAY! Clap it up for KiD CuDi or as he often refers to himself as: Mr.Solo Dolo. For more info on my future husband and for the mixtape download go to his website HERE.

Mr.Bad Timing

Timing is KEY! This rings true for so many aspects of life. Let me tell you for which aspect bad timing sucks majorly......RELATIONSHIPS. Have you ever met someone who either prior to your meeting they just got out of a long term relationship or you're the one coming out of some type of situation. So immediately you're just like.....great.....a new friend that will only be just that, a FRIEND. As soon as you see all the baggage: Crazy ex-girlfriend, recent bad memories, etc. you think to yourself....I ain't carrying that SHIT! It wouldn't be so bad if he were just some average schmoe, oh noooooo that would be to fair! Mr.Bad Timing is more than likely PERFECT. Nice structure: tall and dark, short and light...whatever you prefer. Has a nice style: dunks and recs, prada and gucci.....to each his own. Basically what you were looking for in your next RELATIONSHIP.....you just found in your new AWESOME(sense the sarcasm?) FRIENDSHIP......THUMBS UP! No....thumbs fucking DOWN! I mean new friends are great, but a new LOVE is soooooooooo much better! Its a friend with super powers...it can do other things a regular friend CAN'T or maybe SHOULDN'T do. It's a SUPERFRIEND! So you hang out with your new great friend hoping that some random eclipse, or meteor landing happens like in the movies and comics and BANG....your regular friend is now SOOOOOO much MORE. You just gotta ride out that wave and either two things can happen: 1. You have over time developed a great friendship with Mr.Bad Timing or 2. Mr.Bad Timing turns into Mr.Perfect Timing and it's HEY LOVE!

The Closet Hoe

I love reggae, I really do! But reggae is the closet hoe of music genres. She is a freak on the low, and she hides it WELL! If you listen closely to some reggae songs they are saying some NASTY shit up in there. For example...the unedited version of "Dutty Wine" says something about fuckin in the water and fuckin in the sea, fuckin in the bushes and fuckin in the tree. If I could use one word to describe those crass lyrics it would be "Ugggghhhhh." Who is fuckin in the damn wilderness? I mean come on people lets be civilized and get yo ass in a room! DAMN. And then he proceeds to say that if you are fuckin in a bed then you are NOT...I repeat...NOT fuckin him! Well GOOD, because you sir are classless and untamed. We are not wild animals which means we need to be indoors if such acts are going to take place BUDDY! Another song I could use as an example would be "Hot Fuk." Enough said....I think. Basically the lyrics go Hot fuk Hot fuk Hot fuk ai ai ai ai ai! Really? Thats it? Yesssss.....they get straight to the point. Its no wonder the people in all those youtube videos at reggae concerts or a basement party with elephant man playing in the background always look like they are having straight PRISON SEX on camera. MY EYES ARE BURNING! So....just in case you weren't aware of her tendencies, I just dragged Reggae's hoe ass out the closet. I still bang wit her tho.....that's not gonna change! Hahaha.

*Remember*

Everyday you wake up is already a good day, but it's the shit that happens during the day that determines if it will continue to be a good one. You either have a good day or a bad day, so always expect one or the other, and when you have a bad day just think to yourself "there's always tomorrow." I know that you go through the same shit...different day but you've got to believe that a change is gonna come and it may have to start with you!

Its ALL Entertainment @ The End Of The Day

Why oh Why are you so surprised is the question that plagues me in my mind? Yes, that rhymed...and why might you ask....because I felt like it dammit! In this post I would like to address the issue of Rick Ross being a badge in his past life. I don't understand why people were so surprised to find out that Rick Ross isn't really as hard as he portrays himself to be, but I'm sure these are the same people who think his real name is RICK ROSS! It's not, by the way.

I mean are you surprised that Denzel Washington doesn't really have glasses and red hair, and doesn't wear a bow tie? He only played Malcolm X....that's not who he really is. Are you gonna be surprised if you run into Wesley Snipes and he doesn't have fangs and a sword strapped to his back? NO...because it's only entertainment. I watched Plies give an interview one time and wasn't sure if that was the same nigga that raps about "Bust it Babies" and what not, b/c he sounded mighty intelligent! But then again its a job. And most of these entertainers are very good at their JOB. David Banner graduated from Southern University in Louisiana, was the President of the Student Government Association and Pledged Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Inc. And you would probably never know that from listening to "Play." Ignorance, unfortunately, sells in todays society...so even if its out of an artist's character I'm sure they will play the part to make the dollar. There are some out there who aren't willing to compromise their art to make a quick buck, but these quality people are only a sample in the population (Statistics, shout out to Mrs.Coccimiglio). So we take what we get....a bunch of actors that RHYME (and some not very well).

Why Wouldn't I Care?

"Why do you care what people think?"

I hate that phrase, deeeeeep down in my heart. I think that some people who use it are only doing so because it makes them seem less affected by what people think about them, they're cooler because they don't give a damn. WRONG! I had a friend (we're not friends b/c of this very phrase, sort of?) who got a lot of attention from females EVERYWHERE he went, but him and I had our own special friendship, relationship whatever, so he never treated me like those groupies and we were really playful and affectionate with each other. But when we were around people who didn't know us I didn't want to act like that and he just COULDN'T understand why! I told him that if you attract groupie bitches everywhere you go and then someone who doesn't know how you and I roll sees me and you all hugged up and playing then I just look like another groupie! "Why do you care what people think?" Ummm......well if I'm not a groupie, then why would I want someone to think that I am? DUH.....I DON'T! First impressions are everything and as HUMANS we tend to be judgemental, it may not be intentional but we just can't help it. So why wouldn't I want to censor my actions around people who don't know? It's not being fake, its just how I act if I don't know you, then if you want to get to know me you will learn more and more about me as time goes on. If you are my friend I could care less what you think about me b/c by now you know me, we're homies but a stranger is a different story. I doubt anyone wants to be portrayed as something that they aren't, so at the end of the day we all probably care, and since when did caring become a bad trait?

*New Mu$ik*

I have new music in my PLAYER! Yaaaay to that. I made it at www.myflashfetish.com and stored my files using fileden.com. It's easy to do and pretty niffty as well! Enjoy the playlist. XOXO

Stick 2 Your Own Kind

Now....when I say stick to your own kind I don't mean race, religion, things like that! But what I do mean is if you know that your caliber as a human is LOW....then you need to find someone with an equal measurement. I'm so tired of ain't shit nigga's trying to match themselves with bout' shit females. Off jump we don't know you ain't bout shit.....so then the only one shocked is us because your foolish ass knew you won't bout shit. Its not fair for a caring, selfless, loving woman to be approached by a poser, a dude who acts as if he's a good catch when in all actuality if you could see who he really was inside you would toss his ass BACK into the shitty pond he came from! If ol' boy is a good enough actor and you cont. to see him then every engagement after the first meeting is just a step closer to uncovering the truth. In a sense you're just wasting that person's time and you would have been better off telling them for the giddy up, b/c now they're PISSED! Uggghhh! The same goes for ladies as well, if you know you are a gold diggin', can't cook, no car havin' heffa then go to the club and talk to the nigga that throws money out into the crowd. That's perfect bait for chicks like you and chances are he ain't bout shit EITHER. But how dare that same chick go to the good happy hour spots and try to push up on the well-educated, fly but not flashy, baby smooth skin havin' brotha by the bar. I wish we had electric collars we could put on you ain't shit people out there so that if you come within 5 feet of the bout shit people you get ZAPPED! You either need to upgrade to being about something or stick with your own kind.

10 yrs.....and still 1 of the BEST

I just thought to myself, whenever Aquemini was released, I'll do an anniversary blog about it. And what do you know...I looked it up and Aquemini was released September 29th, 1998, marking this past Monday as its 1o year anniversary! POP CHAMPAGNE! To this day (even though I doubt I had the album on release day, so from the day I first heard it to this day sounds more appropriate) I still listen to Aquemini like its a current album. It's still seems so relevant and its just all around GOOD music. Good beats, lyrics, guest appearances....pretty much everything! Which is probably why this is one of the few albums that has received the very much sought after "5 mic" rating from the Source magazine. "Folk in ya face you're a supastar, niggaz hang around cuz of who ya are" from LIBERATION rings in my head over and over anytime I think about Aquemini as well as those beginning drums and horns of SPOTTIEOTTIEDOPALISCIOUS, I could go on and on. If you are reading this and you don't own this album....better your LIFESTYLE and go get it, HELP ME HELP YOU! This is one of the best hip-hop albums ever and I'm just going to end by saying "Now who else wanna Fuck wit' Hollywood Cole?"

Your Faults Will Not Be Mine

I recently had a revelation...

I will not allow the Faults of other men aid in the creation of my Own.

I was raised by one of the nicest women a person could meet. Its in my nature do what is asked of me. I think I'm a pretty a good friend on my good days and still a decent one on the bad one's. So why should I compromise how I was raised to be because other people may not do things the same way? If someone doesn't call me as often, I don't think I should have to lessen how much I want to talk to them. Whether they are a friend or more than that until you tell me otherwise I am going to treat you as such. I know what it feels like to go to sleep, wake up the next day and no longer be able to talk to someone you talked to almost everyday. I love people....I love talking to people and I will not lessen myself as a person b/c other people don't value the simple communications we have with one another. You never know who is having a terrible day and if that one random phone call from you could make them feel all the more better, then maybe people should start picking up the phone or dropping an email every now and again....just because you can. We're not all promised tomorrow so I'm gonna just say HI today, b/c that's just who I am and I'm not gonna change, but maybe you should?

More..More..More

Society. I think society drives us all to want more in life. No matter what we have, the advertisements always tell us there is something out there that is faster, better, stronger....WHATEVER, its just MORE! I think this is one of the reasons why people cheat. People always think the grass is greener on the other side, and once they've crossed over the shit just ain't what they thought it would be. People are less and less satisfied nowadays. People will find the smallest reason to fault others and use that as incentive to feel that they need more, when in all actuality the "more" that they think they'll find isn't really out there or instead is really LESS. As long as you have the love of another person what more could you really need? I don't think you really need much "MORE."

Go Jump Off Of Something HIGH.....

A grown man taking time out of his own busy day to hate on another grown man is a prime example of PURE Bitchassness! So apparently 50cent is claiming that Jay-Z was a "Nobody" before he married Beyonce', which I find to be the complete opposite of how it really is. Before Beyonce' was Boo'd up, let alone married to Hov....she was still running around wearing one of a kind Tina Knowles creations(from hell) while rocking blonde micro braids, then you put a little H to tha izzo in her world and she instantly became the baddest bitch in the game(so says Jay). Chick had the flyest gear, them lace weaves were on point and she just looked all around better all thanks to Hov. Hov was an international star before Beyonce', he's been out longer and after the blueprint ol' boy was untouchable! So I don't know WHERE Curtis is getting his information from......but I'm sure its from the hater factory. I mean I understand why he's upset....I'd rather wear Roca Wear than G-Unit(uuggghhh) and I'd definitely rather listen to American Gangster than....Curtis? At least I think that was his last shit bomb of an album. 2Quaters also takes time out of his day(on more than one occassion) to sit around and hate on Kanye West. He most recently made fun of Kanye's new single "Love Lockdown" during one of his own shows claiming he had come out with a new single and then proceeded to lip sync to Love Lockdown. I have one question for 10Nickels.....how is the ride on Kanye's dick? I mean great goodness.......you wish you had as much talent in your whole body that this brother has in his pinky NAIL. Jealousy looks good on no one CURTIS, esp. a stiffed jawwed, muscle headed, homo thug ass nigga such as YOURSELF!

Go White Girl...Go White Girl!

Blue Eye'd Soul isn't gender specific if you ask me, so I've decided to do this post on those few females that fit in this category PERFECTLY. I know a lot of people have heard of Amy Winehouse and love her music, but there are plenty of other white female artists out there with extremely soulful voices. First up is Duffy, a welsh born big voice singer whose album "Rockferry" is Uh-Mazing. My favorite track on the album is "Stepping Stone" and I would suggest all to preview her material. Second is Adele, an english born singer who has more of a jazzy feel to her deep voice. Her album "19" is a smooth listen, that rainy day & a good book type of listen. I suggest giving her lead single "Chasing Pavements" a listen, to understand what I'm talking about. Third and lastly is SIA, an australian singer with a voice to be reckoned with! She has put out five albums, the last one being "Some People Have Real Problems." From that album I would suggest listening to "Day Too Soon" and "Soon We'll Be Found." She also has a live album entitled "Lady Croissant," which has her performance of a Zero 7 song she was featured on that displays the raw capabilities her voice has, so I would suggest listenting to "Distractions(live)." Well I think that about wraps up GoWhiteGirl 101......til' next time....class dismissed!

Its just NOT the SAME...

When I listen to a good R&B song, majority of the time I can relate to whatever the artist is saying and it makes me like the song. Like Beyonce's B'day album.....I'm sure there are many women out there that love that album because they can relate to what ol' girl was talkin about and it was catchy as hell at the same time. But let me tell you something.....ain't NOTHING like that good Neo-Soul! When you hear a good neo soul song you don't just relate, you feel like that person went through the saaaaame damn thing you went through. It's like they're living the same life....go through the same heartbreak, feel the same love, said the same thing to the last person that did you wrong or the one that came along and showed you the right way to feel! Damn that neo soul is some goooooood shit! Usher is good, but that brotha will NEVER be Bilal and Beyonce' is the cats meow, but she'll never be Jill Scott. It's just no comparison because no matter how good an R&B artist is they will never be on the same level of a good Neo Soul artist, its just two different levels of good. "Speechless" is one of Beyonce's most popular ballads but its nothing (in my opinion) compared to Jilly from Philly's "He Loves Me (Lyzel in E flat)." Another thing that probably has a great deal to do with the difference is that most neo soul artists are poets and they write their own music whereas most R&B artists have someone else write their material, someone like Ne-Yo or the American Dream. So it's no wonder why my favorite song off of Usher's latest album "Here I Stand" is "Love You Gently," which was co-written by Raheem Devaughn....hmmmm....makes since, don't it? I think you get what I'm trying to say....R&B just ain't Neo-Soul.....and that is just fine by ME.

Young Jeezy : The Recession

I love Young Jeezy....but this will NOT be a biased review. It took me a while to get around to actually listening to all of The Recession, but I finally did it! It starts out pretty good with the intro and the track "Welcome Back". Welcome Back screams "WE UP IN THIS BITCH!" every time I here it....I just LOVE IT! But then it immediately goes DOWN HILL with the third track "By The Way." This shit is just too repetitive....to the point of blinding annoyance! But it gets better...."Circulate" is a song with a very unique but not well known sample about the power of the DOLLA DOLLA BILL YA'LL! "Circulate" is actually my current ring tone, I downloaded it as sooooon as I heard the joint on a mixtape....FIRE! And then of course there is a joint up here for the LADIES.....w/the very talented Trey Songz entitled "Take It There." This track is really good which isn't a surprise seeing as how Songz is on it, he's no T-Pain but he does make a hot track every now and again. Overall I would rate the whole album about a 3.5 STARS on a scale of 5. I understand we're going through a recession and he's trying to relate, but I have a hard time believe that Jeezy is REALLY STRUGGLING out here in the streets, I'm just SAYIN'!

BKS

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Back in '83...

I feel that this post is a good follow up to my little section on SHAWTY LO.

What happened to the good ol' days when rappers had to be FLY to be in the game? Rakim was SEXY! LL Cool J.....I mean...dudes name means "Ladies Love Cool J!" How straightforward was that? I mean girls had legitimate crushes on rappers back in the day. Like if your home girl was like "Oooo yeah girl....I love me some Silk the Shocker!" you're response was probably "Yesss...Silk is FINE, he was lookin' especially good in that Mya video!" Now I hear foolishness like "Ooo girl I love me some Lil' Wayne, he is so fine!" and to that my response would be "Ugghh, wait WHAT? Who? Uh uh...no, no he's NOT!" Like is it not a requirement to be fly anymore? And if so WHY NOT? I don't care how much money you have.....Rick "JELLY ROLL" Ross will never be attractive to me! I just don't think it's fair that we, the female hip-hop fans, have to settle for whatever comes out....whereas new female artists, rappers or singers are groomed to be damn near BEAUTY QUEENS. Daahhh WELL....tis' the world we live in. Thanks God for the Nas', Method Man's, and Loons( no he can't rap but he is FINE) of the world. My new hope for a more attractive hip hop is Dolla....he can get it, just to put that out there! So I'm gonna keep hope alive.....I know that hip hop's face lift is right around the corner (Oh how I hope I'm right!)

F%#k You...I'm SNITCHIN'!

I feel that this post is an appropriate follow up to the last one. So apparently there was a lot of speculation after T.I. got caught with Hitler's old guns and barely did any time. I mean the nigga is about to drop a hot album, so he clearly had free time out here! With that being the case many were starting to say that he snitched on some people higher up in the gun chain to get a lesser punishment. And who would have guessed that one of the main BAN's (Bitch Ass Nigga) to pop off would be Shawty Lo?!?!

Dear Shawty LO,
I hate your FACE. That's not an exaggeration...I literally hate your face b/c that thin ass beard shit you've got wrapped around your chin makes me want to find you and shave it off in your sleep. You're just mad b/c Clifford is hot and you're not.....the definition of a hater! Ain't U the same nigga that was with them other dudes talkin' bout shakin laffy taffy and what not? CB4? No...no it was D4L......and that alone lost you all street cred...OFF JUMP! This nigga needs a glass of Hoe Sit DOWN!

Back to Snitchin.....Fuck You....I'm Snitchin! If I got caught b/c some other BAN snitched....and I can't see my companion, kids, live the life I'm used to livin? No sirrrr....I'm tattlin! Cam'rons retarded ass said if a serial killer was living next door that he wouldn't "Snitch." Now that is a dumb nigga for ya, b/c if the killer comes to his house I bet he'll call One Time then! He ain't ROD(ride or die) for REAL! Bottom line is....if you don't wanna get snitched on don't do snitchable( I just made that up) shit in front of people, and if you don't wanna have to snitch then you should probably steer clear of people that look like they'll do some DUMB SHIT w/o thinking about the repercussions for themselves and YO ASS!

A Militia Size Arsenal

According to an often scrutinized old government document.....all American citizens have the right to bare arms. The fine print most people miss states: except for BLACKS! So what the fuck was T.I. thinking? So he recently explained, in some shit I read, why he had all those weapons. Apparently he was really affected by the death of one of his pOtna's and became extremely paranoid and felt the need the buy ancient WWII weaponry. I mean did Clifford think he was in the UNTOUCHABLES, b/c this nigga had like Tommy Guns and shit! Anyways....I don't think a case of paranoia is reason enough to buy a HEAP load of illegal guns. TRY AGAIN Boo Boo!

Sidenote: I think his upcoming album (Paper Trail) is gonna ROCK tho!

Who's Gonna Save My Soul...?

Gnarls Barkley is the greatest combination since pie and cool Hwhip (LOL)! This is a video for their single "Who's Gonna Save My Soul." The song itself is great and the video is just stellar....but HEY....that's just my opinion, so watch for yourself guys and gals!

The Revolution will NOT be TELEVISED......

......but you might be able to listen to it on the Radio! So you know I love music.....and I feel that when I have knowledge of greatness I should bestow it upon the masses. If you didn't know by now the great Nasir Jones aka Nas put out a new album out recently and it is Untitled. This is a very politically charged album, so I suggest you find a beret, pump your fist in the air and VIBE! Another good album that dropped not too long ago was the Roots' LP Rising Up. As you should know by now, if you REALLY read my blog, I am a TRUE Roots fan. So of course in my EARS this album can do no WRONG. This album also has some political content which is very relevant for today's times, ya dig? Everyone should go pick up these 2 albums and better themselves!

Can you blame em'

"I miss you..."
"No...you don't"

Can you blame a person for testing their new "someone" in their life, if their past "someone's" turned out to be dishonest? If you meet a new guy/gal and the one before you was a cheater, then this person is well in their right to be a little weary of ya'lls new found relationship. But the question is how long can you keep taking their tests or little quizzes to show how dedicated you may be? I think that with people like this you have to be patient. If you feel that they aren't worth going through the ringer for then DON'T, because all you're doing is wasting your's and their time. Their not going to just up and trust you, so the questioning and second guessing IS going to happen. But if you feel that this is someone you want to be with then you'll take it all in stride and pass their tests with flying colors, no answer will be the wrong one because you're heart is in the right place. You know that you would never want to hurt them or cause them not to trust you. Eventually they will see this in you and they won't have to question any more, and you won't have to have an answer because they'll just know. So when those two lines from the beginning of this post come up.....add a third one "I really do miss you," in time they'll get the point.

-Titles-

"I don't like titles..."

What does that statement mean really. Your name is a title, your job position is a title, you being a son or a daughter/someone's child is in itself a TITLE. So why are some people, who have been given titles ALLLLLL their life, all of a sudden opposed to titles? Its because it's not necessarily the titles that people are opposed to but the stipulations that generally come with the titles. People feel that while seeing someone casually, if they then take it to the next level and start referring to each other as "my girlfriend" or "my boyfriend" then all HELL breaks loose! It's like "Oh...so we're a couple now right? (b/c you weren't before?) Well then you need to be doing this, and doing that and no more of this and that shit ain't gonna fly no more B!" That's where the fear comes from. Why do things have to change, the only thing that should really change is what you introduce each other to your friends and family members as. The way you act shouldn't change for the worse but for the better. I don't know why title's make people feel like they need to demand more from the other person. If they weren't doing enough before then why did you let it go this far? You think the title is gonna upgrade them? Wrong! And you're only making it worse! In the end titles aren't the enemy, but its whether or not you let the title go to you head and YOU become the enemy. I'm sure some people are reading this and wondering well if title's don't change anything then why do you need them? Its just easier to have them, especially when someone asks "so who is this young lady/man?" oh this is my friend ______(<--insert name HERE). When in all actuality they are more than your friend and you wanna SHOUT IT FROM THE MOUNTAIN TOPS b/c you just think that they are soooooo adorable, blah blah blah WHATEVER. Plus if you did with all your friends what you do with that extra special one....well then that would make you a Blazing WHORE! Whether it be your boo, shuga puga, sweetie pie, wifey, hubby, main 1, mister or misses......maybe that person wants to give you a title to let them know you mean more to them than just another friend.....they can make a friend every day they live if they want to, but they won't make one like you! Warms your heart doesn't it? Ewwww.....lame!

Is a Change gonna come? I hope you're right SAM!

Why are people so hesitant towards change? Especially when it comes to relationships, whether they be friendships, partnerships, or intimate relationships......people just go off of the way they've always been and decide that's how its always gonna be. If change wasn't necessary we'd all be babies....forever....whaaaack! So apparently change is inevitble and people should just embrace it because fighting it would be like dodging the wind, you can't really see it coming it just happens....and if I see you trying to avoid it I'll just stare at you and ask "what the fuck are you doing?" People have standards or rules & regulations about how they manage their relationships but don't you think these should alter towards the different people that you encounter in your life. If you are a person who doesn't like long distance relationships but you meet someone you really like who lives quite a distance from you, are you going to let your little rule get in the way of a potential kick ass relationship or change the rules? One little adjustment could change your whole future. I feel that people just get so stuck on their ways that they sometimes miss out on the good good that's going on around them. We've all gotta change sometime....if we didn't then it wouldn't even be an option.....now would it?!

U can't fake this ISH...

No matter how much we love them, some of our favorite artists have made it big without actually possessing talent. For example: Mary J. Blige....loved by many, from all different walks of life. I heard her concerts are really good, but it's no big secret that Mary can't sing....she can SCREAM, but that's not necessarily singing..now is it? Another SUPER...I repeat...SUPER STAR, Madonna can NOT sing....never could and probably never will seeing as how she is old as balls! But people would kill to see a Madonna show. The woman is an ICON for pete's sake! But I guess people like that can get away with lacking such a major skill because they posess so many others. But let me tell you something you can't fake....COUNTRY! You can't fake country in the least bit! If you want to be a country singer you need to have some pipes on you. Why is this....I'm not really sure, maybe it's because they're telling such a dramatic heartfelt story ALLLLLL of the time, it's like their listeners have to feel them. No swanky dance moves are gonna make them feel the song if the voice behind it all doesn't make them visualize the story in their own mind! I have heard artists from almost all genre's of music that lack the actual ability to sing. Rihanna had to grow on me, Ke Ke Cole is a mini Mary J, Fall Out Boy is TERRIBLE live, and the list can go on an on BUT.......what you will fail to find on that list is a COUNTRY artist. Shania, Carrie, Rascall Flats, Garth...............these moFo's can SAAAAAANG! So I will always believe that there are many things that you can skate by and fake but Country music just ain't one of em'!

I really want to see your degree?

Who decided it was a good idea to have Tyra "Trust Me, I'm a Doctor" Banks giving out advice to people. I know this broad probably has her own demon's to deal with. I mean even Oprah brings people with REAL degrees and REAL experiences to handle her guests. But ooooohhhh noooooo....not on Tyra's show! This Bitch gives her OWN expert advice. The only thing she is an expert at is fucking other celebrities, shitty acting, and wearing underwear on a runway. Now when it comes to real issues that are affecting people in the world, I'm just guessing that Tyra is the last person people think to get an opinion from. And then the broad has the nerve to be judgemental and shit, she be on her show telling her GUESTS that they really have problems, how they should and should not act! Bitch WHO ARE YOU? The only problem those guests really have is thinking that Tyra Banks is going to have the answer to all their problems and if it don't have anything to do with ASS & TITTIES....then that chick is about to be as useful as a poopy flavored lollipop! I used to like Tyra when she first started the ANTM series but when she started harping on Danielle's southern accent one season (Like her monkey ass won't from the hood somewhere in Cali), I lost all respect for her. YOU....YOU miss Thang are the one who believes that a southern accent has an ignorant connotation...I never put the two together and still don't. Tyra is a prime example of when someone needs to be told to "Sit down Hoe!" But then again this is the opinion of one SuperHOE...I mean Super Model. And until I see her degree....her opinion means LITTLE to ME!

Sidenote: She will NEVER be the next Oprah, broad ain't even the next Ricki Lake( I miss her!)

I'm not sensitive.....you're just a DICK

I hate being called sensitive....because I'm faaaaaaaaaaaaaar from it. The only people that call me sensitive are usually ASSHOLES, and they only call me sensitive because their dick's who don't want to come to terms with the fact that they are such a thing. It's so much easier in a situation where someone gets offended, for the offender to say that the offendee is sensitive, basically placing all of the wrong doing on the victim. "Oh no, I'm not being the biggest dick in the world, you're just being sensitive or emotional....what's wrong with YOU?" Umm...no Bitch, what is wrong with you? You actually have 60 seconds to come to the realization that I am not sensitive and that you just had a real prick moment, and if time runs out and you haven't done so then I will proceed to show you how the opposite of sensitive I REALLY AM by condemning your whole existence! Watch who you call sensitive or watch who you're being a dick to.....you might have just offended the first person that will make you cry in a VERY LONG time!

Peace&Blessings

Didn't know a CLIPBOARD made you GOD?!?!

Club promoter...bite me! Door man...suck it! Girl with clipboard and stank attitude...kill yourself! Who told these chumps at the club that whatever little privilege they had suddenly made them GOD? They all need a reality check, real FAST. I go out to clubs, bars, lounges etc for good music and the social aspect, kickin it with the girls and what not.....I do not go to be JUDGED! JUDGEMENT at the door was not mentioned on any flyer I've ever received, yet I encounter it allllllllll the time. So basically what these club people are telling me is that if I can't spit 16bars, don't shake my ass in a video, or suck dick on camera and maybe write a book about it that I'm not important enough to get into the club. I never understood why rich people don't pay while the 9 to 5 nigga's gotta come out of pocket just to enjoy a night out on the town. These "CLUB PEOPLE" stand outside of the club trying to look extra important while telling someone "naaw I can't help you, sweetie" or "you gotta get in the line like everybody else." Apparently these clubs hold lines so that it builds up a crowd and it makes it seem like the spot is jumpin. I don't know how everyone else operates, but when I see a ridiculously long line all it makes me wanna do is find another club to go to. I'd much rather go to a club that had hardly any people but I got in free, than a club that is packed and I had to pay 20 bones for, BUT THAT'S JUST ME! Basically what I'm saying is if you read this and you're one of those "Club People".....F@#K YOU....I'm skippin lines and still gettin' in free, SUCKA!

Better than the rest of em'

Do you ever see a chick/dude that you know is WHACK to the core, and you peep that they are boo'd up HARD? And this sight makes you wonder how in the hell did that HERB find romance/love/like/hand holdin n' skippin....what the FUCK ever, but it makes you SICK! For all who can relate to such a situation it's time to start living by a new creed. If you are single, don't want to be, and aren't sure why then this is just for you. The next time you meet someone you think you would be interested in just let them know off jump...."you might wanna get to know me well because I've seen the rest of these broads/cats out here and they don't get much better than this!" Let them KNOW....you are the truth and them other folks is LIES! You can make them aware that their are some equivalents and sure...there are some other's that may look better but that fades away with time, and once it's gone chances are the conversation isn't poppin off. Now we can't have people out her false advertising, but if you really feel that this method fits you then by all means put it into action.....in the end 1 of 2 things could happen: 1. they take your advice and you have helped to better someone's life with your SHINING presence or 2. they disregard your advice and in that case chances are they're not that bright or they're a pessimist (neither of which is too appealing). So to all of my single ladies out there, put on your F@#k me pumps and get your Naomi Campbell walk on. To all my single men out there, get your Billy Dee swag up and cut all the jive talkin. It's about to be a new DAY.....and you need to let everyone know that you're better than the rest of em'! BONG BONG!

Ball of CONFUSION!!!

Men don't understand women.....Women don't understand men.....so when relationships exist, where is the understanding in it all? Men don't understand why their women go off on them sometimes and women don't understand why their men still do the same dumb shit that causes you to cuss them out! WHAT DOES IT ALL MEAN? If no one has any understanding of the other person then what are we doing? Do we get involved with people hoping that we will finally uncover the mystery of the opposite sex, or do we do it because being perplexed is FUN. I think that in the beginning people are just hoping to learn things about the other person and if a relationship comes out of it then so be it, and while in this new relationship you realize that you may never fully understand the other person but you will learn the ins and outs to not getting cussed out on a daily basis! Eventually after being around people for a certain amount of time you learn their triggers, what makes them happy or what pisses them off. Even if you don't understand the triggers, you know what they ARE and that is all that matters. If you know that when you press the red button that it will launch a missile that will cause the end of days, then common sense will tell you not to PRESS IT, you don't need to understand why the world will end if you press it, just that you don't need to press it! So in the end I think that the only thing we understand in a relationship is that we're not ALWAYS going to understand, and that's ok.....but you should always use common sense and that will help avoid the end of your days!

Ms.Money Bags

"Now I ain't sayin she a gold digga...but she ain't messin with no broke nigga!" This particular post is about Ms.Money Bags, that gold diggin' broad we all know and LOVE (maybe?). Ms.MB is your friend who is spoiled by men. She always wants a man to spend spend spend his hard earned money on what? HER! And for some reason she always seems to find men who will spend spend spend their hard earned money on her. She meets men and expects them all to take her out at the drop of a dime, take her shopping, chip in on a bill here and there, and gas money is a must. But what I'm wondering is if ol' girl came out the womb being a gold diggin type broad or was there a chain of events that caused her to be this way. Maybe she was raised in a household where men showered their women with whatever they wanted or needed, so when she was embraced by men as a woman she expected the same treatment. Or maybe when she entered into the dating world her first few suitors treated her like this....leading her to believe that all men should treat women like this (or at least HER anyway). If either one of those reasons is why she is Ms.MB then you can't really blame her for her actions or expectations when it comes to men. But if those aren't the reasons why, and she is the way she is because she sees that some men have it so why not take it....then that's another story! And most of the time Ms.MB doens't have her own funds together, which says that you want a mand to do for you what you can't do for yourself...and that miss.THANG is a PROBLEM! Hopefully one day she will learn the error of her ways...get her own scrilla...and realize that no one can take care of you like you can take care of yourself!

Stop w/ this Rapunzel shit!

I really want to know who decided that having short hair was sooooooooooooooo not cool? I clearly disagree, but I always come across situations that make me realize a million others don't see it my way. I hate it when girls with long hair think about cutting their hair and people damn near beg and plead on bended knee that they don't cut their damn hair. Like if they cut that shit the sun will stop shining and we will only live my the light of the moon......it's really not that serious! Like if the bitch cuts her hair ain't no prince gonna come and save her from the tower she's imprisoned in, cause lord knows he can't climb up short hair! Really? Come the hell on people. Why do you need for other chicks around you to have long hair? The only hair cut you need to worry about is your own. I could care less if one of my bottom bitches came in with a high top fade and a Gumby lean......that ain't ME. She can run around looking like she fought a pair of scissors and lost, but as long as my shape up is tight and my parts are FLY OR DIE....then I really don't care! I know the media has a lot to do with what we perceive as beautiful but people should also be able to make their own decisions. I'm sorry but a hair cut or short hair is not the end of days, you will see another tomorrow....the only difference is you'll probably hate your former BFF because that cut she got has her feelin' like the baddest bitch on the block! GET WITH IT LADIEZZZ!

Who doesn't love a good FREE trial?

Recently I was talking with a friend of mine, and seeing as how I wrote about my love for chocolatey men recently I would like to throw in the fact that he is the epitome of a beautiful dark...I repeat...DARK skinned man. With that being said I will let you in on what we discussed! So he is having issues with a female friend because he just wants to be friends and she wants more. Now, adding the fact that..NO...they haven't had sex but have done something more than just friendly makes things complicated. She feels that he's giving mixed signals, whereas he doesn't feel that he has done anything wrong. So we came up with an analogy to help us better determine what was right and wrong in the situation. So...let's say you get a free trial for a product in the mail, and this isn't something you want to go out and buy but since it came to you and it's free you're more than likely going to take the free trial and put it to use. Now, if you continue to get the free trials and you continue to use them are you obligated to buy this product? I say no....not really. I feel that if there weren't any free trials in the first place you might not have even gave two shits about the product and now that its free why would you go out an buy it.......they keep giving it to you for FREE. Now if they stop sending me the product and I miss using it then maybe I'll go out and buy it....but if I don't miss it then that's the end of that. The only person invested in this type of situation is the person giving out the trials....because they are doing so with the hopes that their target market will buy the product. And when they don't see any results they're probably wary of whether or not to stop giving the free trials for fear that right when they stop giving it was when he was going to make a purchase. After analyzing the situation I feel that you should wait til' someone asks for a sample and if they like it then they'll more than likely buy.....but if you just give it for free willingly w/o being asked chances are they're not going to buy because they know they can get it for free. Like the old/random saying goes "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

The Roster

I bet many of you read the title for this blog and immediately knew what I was talking about. Ohhh, the Roster....the Roster is your line up of players. They are all potentials (by now you should know what I mean when I say Potential) and each players serves a specific purpose. Speaking for the ladies there is usually one who you always go out with, to dinner, the movies, a show...WHATEVER. And then there is usually one you call over when you just want to chill out inside...either at his spot or yours. There's also one that you usually call when you need something, like gas, clothes, money for your cell phone bill, BOOOKS (yes...it's hard out here). Sometimes there is one player that you hang out with because you rock with his friends....like you almost love them more than him and thats the only reason why you still tolerate his ass. The roster can be as big as you want it to be but it doesn't matter how many players you have because there is only one that matters...the MVP. The MVP comes before all of the rest, even if you have plans with someone else on the roster you will cancel them when the MVP comes a callin'! You invest so much in the MVP because you think he has soooooooooo much potential. You had to go through a competitive draft to get him...probably had to trade a nigga or two and now he's all yours and you don't want another team to scoop him...EVER! But sometimes the MVP turns into the player who's contract is up for review. Even though he has the potential to be great...it's really up to the MVP to end up being as great as he can be, and when they don't live up to the HYPE....a REVIEW IS IN ORDER. Like all the players on the roster the MVP can be replaced as well...but when you sign him you do so in the hopes that he'll be good enough for you to run a ONE MAN squad. But sometimes it doesn't work out like you plan...and it's back to scouting. I think a guys roster is similar to a females. There is that one chick you call over just to hit and then there is one that you don't mind taking out to eat or to the movies because you like being seen with her (she's like a trophy player...not much PT but she looks good on the bench). And then there is probably you're ride or die chick anytime you need her to do something she has your back. And then you've got your main jawn....the MVP who you're hoping doesn't turn out to be a bad pick so you can wife her up! I say to all of you reading this.....be careful with your roster. Pick your players cautiously and wisely, don't get to attached because they come and go, and always remember until you find that MVP who is worth sending the rest of the squad home...then its all just a GAME!

*Side Note: I don't use a roster....I usually have an MVP and a nigga up for review. The rest of these Goons are associates! Hahaha! But I have seen some impressive rosters so I know what I'm talking about.....holla!

Mr.Nice Guy

Today I'm going to talk about Mr.Nice Guy. I encounter a lot of these fellows, but most of them are my own homies, but recently I have come across one who is a personal potential (you know what I mean by potential). He is one of the sweetest men you have met in a loooong time if not EVER. He can make you feel like Queen for a Day with just one word...BEAUTIFUL, like "hey beautiful," "what are you doing beautiful," or "I can't wait to see you beautiful." It's to the point where you can't see it but you're sure that you are blushing and possibly have the biggest smile you've ever had come across your face. His very touch makes you feel like more than a woman, like you're a work of art he can't stop touching because he embraces and appreciates the craftsmanship. Despite the nick's, cuts or marks the artwork may have he only sees it as being immaculate. He and Mr.Candy Man may seem similar but are far from the same thing. The difference is that Mr.Candy Man's main concern is for you to know how great he is, whereas Mr.Nice Guys main concern is for you to know how great HE thinks YOU are! That's the shit I'm TALKIN' ABOUT right there. The great thing about Mr.Nice Guy is that he more than likely doesn't even know how much of a nice guy he is because it's just natural to him. He wants to make you feel like the Queen you are, the Queen he sees when he looks into your eyes. You want to talk to Mr.Nice Guy all the time because he never fails at making you feel like the perfect woman. He's so amazing that if you never meet his mother or the women he holds dearest in his life, you will still know that they were amazing because only having the respect and love for a beautiful woman/women from early on in life could influence him to still do and say the great and amazing things that he says to women today. And as WHACK as this sounds, chances are Mr.Nice Guy is just like a rainbow....he's only going to come after the storm of a lifetime....but there couldn't be a better time for his arrival. There's nothing like weathering a storm to come out and be embraced by such a beautiful sight. So ladies if you're looking for your Mr.Nice Guy.....just stop now, wait til' he finds you! Hold you're breath if you want to....you're not gonna die, but when he comes along and you can finally exhale....it will be one of the best feelings you've ever had.

Yeah...that's WIFEY right THERE!

Men always say they're not looking for a relationship, but we all know that's not necessarily the case. Everyone is walking this earth looking for that special someone God placed here specifically for them. So I was just wondering what makes men stop saying NO to relationships and YES to wifey? What makes a man go "Yeah....that's wifey right there!" I asked several suitable, educated, and handsome Black Kings what makes THAT girl the ONE girl he calls wifey, and I got some great feedback. Some claim that you just know! It's like BAM...she's the one right there and you "...just have to be feelin' that girl." Then others had a loooooooooong list of why they choose a female to be wifey. A lot of men mentioned that if they enjoy your company, not sexually, and don't get bored with you then this is a sign of a potential wifey. One person said that wifey has to do the opposite of most other chicks he meets, while some others got VERY specific. Two men said they look for a positive background check, meaning he doesn't want to find out that she was rollin' in her past or was a jumpoff. Another went as far to say it depends on whether she has the possibility to be a good mother/wife. Some said that wifey has to be attractive of course and some didn't mention physical attributes at all. And then others listed the basic qualities that anyone would want in a significant other like nice, honest, someone you can take to meet the family, repectful, has good conversation, keeps it "trill", a sense of humor and many others. But I had one young man in particular get DEEEEEP about what wifey has to be like, and for him she has to be "someone who can truly be my equal especially on an intellectual level, someone who challenges me and therefore makes me better....someone who respects herself and someone who is focused i.e. knows what she wants out of life and is taking the necessary steps to accomplish that, as well as easy to talk to and caring (but not smothering)." I feel that every man's point was valid and fair. I think for females it may be a little less technical. I feel that for us it's like if a guy tries to get at you then you either give him the time of day or you don't, and if you do then it's like you just see where things go from there. But a guy just approaching a girl because he's physically attracted to her isn't going to help him cover all the bases for the wifey qualities. Does that mean wifey is usually a friend of yours you've been talking to for a while or can it be that chick you picked up in the lounge the other night? Hmmm....I wonder! Either way....ladies who are reading this, if you're wondering why you haven't been snatched up as wifey yet then look at her qualities and see if she is you and you are she. If not....then you've got some work to do before you can say she is me...I am she...that's my man...& he calls me WIFEY! GET TO IT!

There is only 1 type of Chocolate I like...

This blog is dedicated to all my brotha's out there of the darker complexion. I (PERSONALLY) love...LOVE brown skin/dark skinned men. There is nothing wrong with light skinned men but there is something EXTRA SPECIAL about the dark one's. I feel like the darker the complexion the stronger you look and ain't nothing better than a strong man....makes you feel like he can do anything. I feel protected with my darker brotha's, like if we were out and some shit popped off I don't need to be worried. With light skinned men I feel that they just look too pretty most of the time...and if we went out I feel like I would have to watch your back because a nigga might test you since you're cute and soft looking! Most dark skinned men have beautiful colgate smiles too.....and it compliments their complexion SOOOOOOOOOOO WELL. Dark skin is usually buttery smooth too. They just remind you of a nice tasty chocolate bar.....and all women LOOOOVE chocolate (except for me...I don't really like chocolate). They're sweet, dark, and they are all around! Tyrese, Tyson, Idris, Denzel.....the list goes on and on, but you don't have to be famous to have your beautiful dark/brown skin appreciated. Ladies the next time you see a man with a darker complexion stop him and tell him how lovely is skin is and how he is a Nubian King and that a Queen like yourself is the only one worthy to stand by his side (that might have been a little extra but WHATEVER). Too all of my light skinned male readers out there....I don't think less of you, there are plenty of you that are top notch, but I just think so Highly of the Darker Black men....and to all of you out there I just want to say that I may not be a fan of chocolate, but a chocolatey man is a whoooooooooooole other story!

Mr.Candy Man

"Who can take a sunrise,
Sprinkle it with dew?
Cover it in chocolate and a miracle or two
The candyman, the candyman can,
The candyman can 'cause he mixes it with love
and makes the world taste good"

Mmm mmm Good....let us discuss what I like to call Mr.Candy Man. Everything that comes out of his mouth is sweet, it's not always true....but it sure does sound DELICIOUS! He can almost do no wrong because he knows just the right things to say. He always compliments you, calls you things like sweetheart, sugar, baby girl. He tends to be a very physical person as well because he always wants you to be close to him, wrapping your arms around him, holding your hand, touching your leg.........booooooooooy STOP! Mr.Candy Man usual has fantabulous swag, like if swag were a person it would be HIM. He usually has a personality to match his exterior flyness...like somehow MAGICALLY ya'll like all of the same stuff...mmm hmm, whatever slick willy. And alllllll the ladies love him, but they're very wary of him because....ALL THE LADIES LOVE HIM, you know bitches can't share! Mr.Candy Man looooooooves to talk about what he can do and how great he is at....WHATEVER....in his mind he's just "nice wit it." But ladies watch all that sweet talk because there are two versions of Mr.Candy Man. The first version is Willy Wonka, the one who advertises his candy as being the best and it actually is...he backs up all that sweetness he talks. Then there is the other version, Penny Candy(not even name brand, lol)...this one talks all this shit about what he can do and how great he is....when in all actuality it's NOT....I repeat NOT the BIZness! His candy is poison or has razorblades in it....just bad enough to kill a broad! Hopefully you will only encounter version 1....but don't indulge to deeply in Mr.Candy Man because we all know that too much can be bad for your health. No matter how good it is you may have to limit yourself....too much of anything can get a little old after a while and old candy just doesn't TASTE THE SAME! So even if you have to go on a diet and say no to Mr.Candy Man remember that if you can't have it...it's still nice to look at! Oooohhh Ahhhhhh!

When is Light Skin not IN?

I always come across men who like to make it known that they prefer women with light skin and sometimes they even like to add the long hair preference too! And I've always wondered why this was...I mean I understand everyone has their own preference but it seems like everyone thinks that light skin is soooooo much more appealing than darker skin. I think it started waaaaaay back in the day....let's start with slavery....most of the slaves with lighter skin were usually related to someone who was white (by FORCE I'm sure) and of course they believed being white was a lot better and were often treated better b/c being black meant being a SLAVE! Now we can move onto a more recent example...boxer Jack Johnson used to parade around in fancy cars, expensive clothes and of course white women...b/c they were a symbol of power....to have a white woman on your arm meant you were somebody! Even Malcolm X boo'd up with a white woman at one point in his life b/c it was a status thing! Now in today's day and age majority of the women in movies, music videos or the runways are either light skinned or not even black. And when the men look at societies view of what is beautiful they don't see the darker skinned woman. I questioned a few men on this topic and they basically said that it's how "society makes the ideal woman out to be," so I can't really blame the men but maybe society is the problem in the end and as USUAL!

*Side Note: To all my brown/dark skin sistas out there....you are beautiful....fuck society and what they think. We're no less beautiful than the next woman. And to the men out their overlooking all the darker ladies....your LOSS! And I don't have anything against light skinned women b/c my mother is damn near see through! I just don't think a complexion makes you better than anyone else...SORRY!

*Side SIDE Note: Yes on that flyer it says you get in free if you are a light skinned woman or a libra....I mean come ON?

If I saw you on the STREET....

There is a long list I have of Celebrities I despise! I despise them to the point that if I saw them on the street I think I would tell them that I can't stand them and I think that they are worthless! There will be several posts like this but I'm going to start with Kim Kardashian. I can't stand this bitch! Does this hooker have a job....like a real one that she could like claim on her taxes and shit? I guess spreading her booty meat in select men's magazine gets her a check or two. But that's not even why the hoe is recognizable.....the first time I heard of this trollop was when her sex tape with Ray-J was released to the public! LMAO.....you are famous...not for curing cancer, running a marathon with one leg, saving 80 puppies from a burning building or some amazing shit like that, but for fucking a nigga named Ray-J on camera! KILL YOURSELF.....this can't be real (just like that ass she totes around her spinal region)! And then she is boo loving with sexual chocolate himself Reggie Bush. I HATE HER.....she is worthless, yet people keep giving her shine (a reality show? about what?). I'm ready for her 15 minutes of fame to be up....please stop buying magazine's with her on them or watching her show......it's just like dropping quarters in a pay phone.....the bitch just gets MORE TIME!!!!!!

This is a video of her 9yr old sister on a stripper pole! COME ON....REALLY?

Keeping Up With the Kardashians - Kylie Works The Pole
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She almost GOT ME!

I love all things Spike Lee....I really do! But School Daze holds a special place in my big BIG heart. Now I haven't always been the biggest Alicia Keys fan....of her music that is...I feel like I would like her as a person though. But good ol' A.Keys got me hooked again! Her latest album "As I Am" was actually pretty good ("Tell You Something" is my JAM)....and she had me there, just at the album but then that heffa went and made a video for "Teenage Love Affair" and it's modeled after School Daze! Dammit ALICIA.....it's like you are trying to make me like your music! Well played Madam...well PLAYED. Check out the video...it's kind of poppin!

Alicia Keys - Teenage Love Affair
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Boss Bitch Alert

Do you misbehave? Sometimes I do...tsk tsk tsk! I mean....it's fun....you can't really help it. And for all my Boss Bitches out there who love to MissBehave there is a perfect magazine out there for you! MISSBEHAVE Magazine is basically the SHIT! It's for chicks, written by chicks, about stuff chicks like. It has iLL music and fresh gear, pretty much all things need to become and remain a BOSS BITCH. Subscribe or do like I do and take a visit to your neighborhood Barnes&Noble and pick up a copy. I only tell you things to better yourself ladiezzzzz.....so get on your Nike grind and Just Do IT! Swwwooooooooosh!

Dear God.....

Dear God,
Thank you for the gift you have bestowed upon me this day.....

I'm sure you're reading this and wondering what gift I was given that was so great it would cause me to blog about it.....I was given the gift of KNOWLEDGE. I learned this morning that the Legendary Roots Crew will be dropping an album April 29th....tears ALMOST came to my eyes. They have a new single out entitled "Rising UP" featuring the rap ambassador for the capitol himself....WALE and Chrisette Michele. The new album is entitled "Rising Down." If you are not excited by this information I have just disclosed then I want you to stop reading my blog right now because I hate you and you are worthless. I looooooooooooooooove the Roots......and I'm OUT.

The Roots - Rising Up f. Wale & Chrisette Michele
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Damn Disney.....I can't be a Princess?

Have you ever noticed that Disney hasn't made a movie with Black or Latino characters? NO...the Lion King DOES NOT count, SORRY! They have made a movie with almost eeeeeeeevery other race, nationality, ethnicity or whatever other than blacks and hispanics! What's really good? They did native americans (Pocahontas), chinese (mulan), pacific Islander (lilo&Stitch), greeks (hercules), indians (jungle book; mogli), sword in the stone (british, lol), the Hunchback of Notre Dame (fucking Gypsies), Tarzan (a damn jungle raised white boy), they even did a movie about fucking MerPeople....REALLY? I could go on for days....let's not even talk about all the million animal movies they did before a movie with Blacks or Latino's. So...there are the Disney Princesses: Cinderella, Snow White, Ariel the little mermaid, Jasmine (ain't that bitch persian?), Aurora the Sleeping Beauty, Belle and sometimes they include Mulan and Pocahontas. None of the princesses are black/hispanic.....so is Disney telling our little girls of color that they can't be Princesses or that Princesses don't look like them. I don't think people think about the simple shit and how it could have a major affect on a child in the long run. Why do you think they have doctor barbie or astronaut barbie.....b/c if all barbie did was sit in the house cooking, taking care of her sisters/kids, or shopping then this is what the girls playing with her would think they could only do! So when a girl wants a princess barbie and none of the options look like her what is this saying to the poor girl? They are finally introducing a Black Princess named Tiana who will star in the Princess and the Frog.....but why did it take til' 2008? How long has Disney been around the block? A looooooooong ass time......Mickey Mouse was originally in Black & White, and that's saying something. So how long is it going to be before the Hispanic girls get a princess, HELL......they'll take another bajillion years. And the reason why the shit happens like this is because they don't see the problem with it, I was reading comments on this website discussing the new Princess and why they aren't glad that she's a Black Princess but that there's another Princess coming out. What the FUCK.....NO....who cares about a new princess b/c if that bitch was white or some other race that probably doesn't WATCH DISNEY MOVIES then I would be far from enthused, but since we are FINALLY getting a Black Disney Princess I'm over the MOON about it. And they better add her picture to the Princess collection QUICKLY or I'm startin' a damn RIOT. I'm tired of looking at pictures of the Disney Princesses and it looks like the DAMN UNITED NATIONS KICKED AFRICA ALL THE FUCK OUT OF THE MEETING!

Ms.Attention Whore

I was told that I was doing a lot of male-bashing.....I don't agree, but I'll switch the game up for ya'll! So...I definitely have my opinions about females as well as males. So this jawn is about Ms.Attention Whore! I hate Ms.Attention Whore b/c she is annoying to the point of suicidal tendencies. This broad wants attention from EVERYONE but mostly from men, if there are no males present then she wants attention from whoever will give it to her. This is your friend that is always crying, she always has men problems, family problems.....this is the bitch with PROBLEMS basically. Now let's say you are at a gathering of some sort....and you are talking to a dude (he's just a friend) but then here she comes butting in the conversation trying to make herself the center of attention! You just wanna scream "BITCH GO SIT DOWN SOMEWHERE!" She is the queen of exchanging information too....like if YOU (by yourself, that broad is across the room) meet a group of dudes all of a sudden she comes out of nowhere and quickly catches up on the conversation so towards the end she can be like "lemme get your number." LORD JESUS.....bitch breathe! Now lets say you are talking to another home girl like "girl I can't wait til' next weekend," here she come with "what's going on next weekend?" Umm...clearly I'm not talking to you and I don't feel that I should have to wait til' she is not around to talk about things I want to do WITHOUT HER! My memory isn't that good, so when shit pops up I need to talk about it then and there or it will be lost in the mist of my mind FOREVER. She has to be included in EVERYTHING or she's upset and probably somewhere crying about it. One of her favorite things to do is SICE whatever male attention she gets. She will tell you some mess like "oooh girl this dude was all over me at the party, I gave him my number and he STAY callin me," when in all actuality she probably booked him and text him later that night....so whatever to you crazzzyyy! But the worst quality about the attention whore is that she is a Friend-Stealer.....if you introduce her to your friends chances are 15 minutes after the original introduction she has gotten all of their information...including their SOCIALS, and is making plans for the upcoming weekend, somehow managing to EXCLUDE YO ASS! I hate friend stealers, get your own damn friends....SHIT! Friend stealing is a sure-fired way to make it so that you meet NONE of my other friends OH especially the MALE friends. The attention whore also likes to flirt with men that she thinks you MIGHT be interested in.....like if you say the most simple shit about a nigga like "oh his SOCKS are cute," next thing you know they are best friends, walking around holdin hands skippin and shit....sharing candy and.....I don't know what the hell they're doing but they just got too close too soon! And somehow she manages to put her phone down in front of you in the middle of a deep texting session with this nigga just so if you happen to glance at her phone you will definitely see that shit! NOW WHEN I PICK UP YOUR PHONE AND CHUCK THAT SHIT AT A WALL, YOU ONLY HAVE YOURSELF TO BLAME. Basically what it boils down to is that the attention whore is the DEVIL.....plain and simple.....I don't know how to stop her b/c I don't want to give her ANY ATTENTION...that's all she wants in the end anyway!

Ahhhh.......so what you're saying is U ain't bout SHIT?!

What about my face says "Come up to me and spit pure BLASPHEMY"? Huh? I don't think anything about me says I tolerate lies and bullshit, I'm just sayin'....I don't see IT! So why would a dude come up to me and tell me all this shit he thinks I want to hear? Things like I usually like light skinned chicks but there's something special about you, or some shit like that. Ok....good for you my brotha! Now if you tell me all this stuff about what we're gonna do and how all this is gonna be great, if I'm up for the challenge why are we not walking the walk of all the shit that you talk? Could it be because you are too busy texting one of my friends? That's right Ladies and Gentlemen....I've got one of thoooooooooose nigga's on my hands! Now, when you find that I treat you differently it's because I'm keeping everything short so I don't mess around it knock you the fuck out....that's all that is!

Here is where I break things down for men out there...
Don't say extra special shit to a broad if you don't mean it! No, I'm not all heart broken b/c you didn't mean all the wonderful/RANDOM things you said, but I am borderline homicidal b/c you made it your business to spit PURE BLASPHEMY to me out of the BLUE. This wasn't routine....some shit we do all the time, this was just out of nowhere. Don't POP OFF about all that you want/can/will do if you really won't! I didn't ask you.....nigga you volunteered this information.....and I personally wish you hadn't. So men don't say things you don't mean b/c you might just piss off the wrong chick. Don't make the Boss Bitch mad b/c you WILL get FIRED!

Listen...and VIBE

So I recently started listening to the Dead Presidents Soundtrack...and basically it is UH-Mazing! I would advise everyone to download the songs, then proceed to lay back and VIBE!!!!! (click on track title to download)

1. Sly & The Family Stone-If You Want Me To Stay
2. Isaac Hayes-Walk On By
3. James Brown-The Big Payback
4. The Spinners-I'll Be Around
5. Barry White-Never, Never Gonna Give You Up
6. Harold Melvin & The Blue Notes-I Miss You
7. The Dramatics-Get Up & Get Down
8. Curtis Mayfield-If There's Hell Below
9. Aretha Franklin-Do Right Woman, Do Right Man
10. Jesse Powell & Trina-Where Is The Love
11. Al Green-Tired Of Being Alone
12. The O'Jays-Love Train
13.Isaac Hayes-The Look Of Love
14.Danny Elfman-Dead President's Theme