Yeah...that's WIFEY right THERE!

Men always say they're not looking for a relationship, but we all know that's not necessarily the case. Everyone is walking this earth looking for that special someone God placed here specifically for them. So I was just wondering what makes men stop saying NO to relationships and YES to wifey? What makes a man go "Yeah....that's wifey right there!" I asked several suitable, educated, and handsome Black Kings what makes THAT girl the ONE girl he calls wifey, and I got some great feedback. Some claim that you just know! It's like BAM...she's the one right there and you "...just have to be feelin' that girl." Then others had a loooooooooong list of why they choose a female to be wifey. A lot of men mentioned that if they enjoy your company, not sexually, and don't get bored with you then this is a sign of a potential wifey. One person said that wifey has to do the opposite of most other chicks he meets, while some others got VERY specific. Two men said they look for a positive background check, meaning he doesn't want to find out that she was rollin' in her past or was a jumpoff. Another went as far to say it depends on whether she has the possibility to be a good mother/wife. Some said that wifey has to be attractive of course and some didn't mention physical attributes at all. And then others listed the basic qualities that anyone would want in a significant other like nice, honest, someone you can take to meet the family, repectful, has good conversation, keeps it "trill", a sense of humor and many others. But I had one young man in particular get DEEEEEP about what wifey has to be like, and for him she has to be "someone who can truly be my equal especially on an intellectual level, someone who challenges me and therefore makes me better....someone who respects herself and someone who is focused i.e. knows what she wants out of life and is taking the necessary steps to accomplish that, as well as easy to talk to and caring (but not smothering)." I feel that every man's point was valid and fair. I think for females it may be a little less technical. I feel that for us it's like if a guy tries to get at you then you either give him the time of day or you don't, and if you do then it's like you just see where things go from there. But a guy just approaching a girl because he's physically attracted to her isn't going to help him cover all the bases for the wifey qualities. Does that mean wifey is usually a friend of yours you've been talking to for a while or can it be that chick you picked up in the lounge the other night? Hmmm....I wonder! Either way....ladies who are reading this, if you're wondering why you haven't been snatched up as wifey yet then look at her qualities and see if she is you and you are she. If not....then you've got some work to do before you can say she is me...I am she...that's my man...& he calls me WIFEY! GET TO IT!