You know the scene in a movie when the struggling married couple tell the children that "Mommy and Daddy just fell out of LOVE," that is by far my least favorite movie cliche'. I personally don't believe that people fall out of love, but I do believe that people quit on love. If you love someone deeply it's going to be hard to just walk away from them or stop loving them. But if you are just lazy, a quitter or you just don't care anymore then its probably effortless to walk away from love. I don't believe that when people break up they will get back together again and make things work. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a quitter and if we have problems and you just up and walk out thats exactly what you are doing.....QUITTING. You didn't fall out of love, you just go lazy. People break up and get back together over and over again, but it's never going to be the same. Let's say someone in a commited relationship cheats on the other, they can either work out the situation or someone can quit and walk away, but as the person is finding out about the infidelity, their love for the other person doesn't just instantly die but their willingness to work and fight for love might! Love means that you would rather work shit out down in hell with that person rather than have nothing to complain about up in heaven. Thats from "Down Here In Hell With You" by Van Hunt. No one is perfect, and loving someone means loving all of them, flaws and all. It's hard to be a Lover but it's easy as pie to be a Quitter!
4 comments:
damn this is deep. I do think you can fall out of love. and when you fall of love it doesn't mean that you don't love them anymore... (because you always have a love for people, its human nature) it just means that you don't love them enough to try to make it work. Why would be "down here in hell" with someone when you could be happy. I think you know in your heart when the love is gone.
like earth wind and fire said...
Somethin happened along the way
What used to be happy was sad
Somethin happened along the way
And yesterday was all we had
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I think its possible to fall out of love but it takes time. Its not something that just you can turn on or off. If someone cheats on you, like you said in the post, then yeah your love doesn't just die like that. But your feelings for that person are influenced by their infidelity and they probably aren't what you thought they were. I am hate it when people say " You aren't the person I fell in love with." Thats a damn lie.
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This was good food for thought... I agree that people are quitters and that they don't try hard. Making an excuse as to why you quit still does not change the fact that you threw in the towel. Love is hard, life is hard but we deal with it. Alot of us have enough will power to deal with all the other crap in life.. why not deal with love?
Speakin of Love Jones...You or your big headed sister stole my DVD! it was either that or love and basketball. bastads!!!
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